Thursday, May 26, 2011

Losing Gracefully

A fact of life: we are afraid of losing. May it be losing your place, losing your loved ones or losing pride, we are afraid. We want to grab hold of something so bad, we put our heads into it, your body into it and even our life into it. It is hard, took me sometime to realize that I am, sometimes, afraid too.

Maybe it's because we are afraid, we treasure them. It is because we know we might not have it forever, we appreciate it more. I had a friend who died of cancer, but she is just older than me by a year. This makes me realize that life is frail. Remember the scene in Hercules where the witches pulled a string of human life and cut it with a worn scissors? Yes, we are THAT frail; LIFE is THAT frail..

People like me, I like to find solutions. How could we overcome the fear of losing? I read from somewhere, fear itself is the unknown, we are afraid because we do not know what would happen. Morrie (from Tuesday with Morrie) once said in order to overcome it we must embrace it. How? By letting the emotions flow through you, feel it, embrace it, get familiar with it, then let it go.

What if one day we were to lose all of our money, what would you feel, what would you do? *Think about it, exhale, then let it go* What if one day we were to lose a loved one, what would you feel, what would you do? *Think about it, exhale, then let it go* What if one day you were to die, what would you feel, what would you do? *Think about it, exhale, then let it go* It's quite simple actually.

We lead unsatisfied and unfulfilled life because we live in fear and we forget the emotions we once faced, grabbing on to the bits and scrapes and hope that miracles happen. With that we stop growing, our mind refuses to step ahead, we stay in the same place mourning for ourself, feeling self pity and lacking of confidence. In order to continue growth, you must accept yourself for who you are, accept the situations beside you and accept that you cannot have them forever, then we can have our freedom.

We are ordinary people. Maybe we should take it slow. We will live and learn, trust in yourself and believe that the sun still shines, life is good. A nice song to recommend to you. Do listen.


Hey you, can i have a smile? Pleeeease?
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2 comments:

Eu Jian said...

Well written!

心韵 said...

muacks you,my dear...
it is unequivocally...a GREAT GREAT one~