Thursday, July 21, 2011

Keep Your Cool

Hey guys.
It's been a while.
I am feeling sickly now. . .
Because, you know. .
M sick. . . (ooooookay, not funny)

So yes, today's topic is to BE COOL
No I'm not talking bout Yolanda's song
(tho it's a nice song, hard to deny)
It's being calm and cool at times of crisis
Easier said then done, I know.

So that day my friend was going on about how her mom nags her and stuff
At first she was like: annoyed. -okay, I got it I got it-
Then it was like: -STOP IT stop stop stop it-
Then it was like: yelling. And the scene ain't pretty.
Being the nice friend I am (heeee!) I tried to comfort her.

The more she describe the situation, the more I froze and realize...
There's a problem of communication between us
Not US as in me and her, but US as in we and our parents.

I'm sure it's not the first time you guys face a problem like that.
You telling your parents something, then they try to help you in their way.
Then you feel like they are over sensitive and over reacting. . . .
Then you start to lose it.

It's typical.
The question comes to:
HOW. . . . . . . . . to avoid situations like that?

Which brings me back to my topic, BE COOL
When you are faced with a situation which does not favor you
1. your cool (as in being calm, do not react immediately)
2. your head (as in your rationality)

Do understand others before wanting others to understand you.
Let them know that you do understand their points by repeating their points
Then try to tell them yours.

Do not lose the chance to communicate because you lose control of your emotions.
Another tip: Smile, take it easy.

So, that's my rant for today.
It's what I've learnt myself.
Keep your cool dude and dudess!
It's not that hard. . . .

Sunday, July 10, 2011

A Story bout Relationships

Today I wanna talk about relationships.
I had a friend
She had a great boyfriend, one who treat her as god
He worshiped her, admiring her in every way.
In return he gave her everything he got.
He sacrificed his morning sleep time to accompany her to school/work
He spend thousand worth just to please her with cloths accessories cars
He even endure the moaning and complaining of her daily life
She was as lucky as she could get
But somehow... Down the years of relationship, something happened
She started to act weird, started to displease, started to be the perfect annoyance
Well, it was after her friends told her she can be better
Better off without him that is....
So there goes the relationship
The boy was of course, crushed and crumble...
Refusing to face the reality...
Questioning himself... Where did I do wrong....
Hmm, where did he go wrong?
Maybe he is not as caring as he should be?
Maybe he is too quiet?
Maybe he doesn't express his feelings?

It is not for me to judge anything, maybe something did happen between them.
Maybe we as outsiders cannot see/understand their situations.
Maybe the guy was forgetting the girl's worth, only pleasing her materially...
But I do know one thing.
When we are in good conditions, we tend to take things for granted.
Like our parents, our friends, our mates...
"This is what they SHOULD do" "He is only doing his JOB"
For me, love is a powerful feeling
It is unconditional and it gives you a sense of home coming.
At times we wanted more... Being selfish.
At times we get pissed over their good intention.... Being naive
What would come to in the end?
You do the math....

Appreciate love and let love set us free!

Friday, July 1, 2011

Kiasu Studying

Now I know
Exam blues not only happen to students
But to those coaching the students too

So I was with my student the other day
She looked like she'd done a million things that day
Pale... Down... Tensed...
You get the picture~
I actually spend quite some time helping her thru

It seems like we are living in the "kiasu" world
It's not the first time this issue is being referred to
But for the record, it exists...
So near to us too~
I gotto study because:
- my friends are studying too
- I would lose out a lot if I didn't
- I feel guity

So throw away the book
Play 'The Lazy Song'
Chill~ relax~
Then find a better solution
MAYBE we don't have to read the textbook to ace?
MAYBE we can cover the syllabus in a more efficient way?
MAYBE study ain't that hard?

Been searching for some songs lately
I come across Alicia Key's songs
Her songs suit me well
Blues/Jazz mix
Totally tasteful!

Enjoy YOUR day
that's a demand!