The Roach Poem

Was about to sleep when a small creature crawled,
I caught it with the corner of my eyes as it walked.
Calm and steady I took the Risect and the broom,
swish and splash but it was not sent to it's doom.
Out it flies into my rummie's wardrobe,
what to do but to give it a little shove.
Fortunately we trapped it as we poach,
here ends the story of the nasty cockroach.

猪猪的你，看到这猪猪的小帖帖，就要好像他那样，弯起双脚向前冲哦～

两只猪猪，两只猪猪，
跑得快，跑得快，
看到前面有好料，看到前面有好料，
吃吃吃！吃吃吃！
XD

希望这一点点可以逗你开心哦～ :)

I notice a little something new about myself.

After a few incident, I notice I am someone who would like to be appreciated

Maybe, most people are like that too.
I think there are goods and bads of having this quality.

The Good
When one gives you a good recognition when you accomplish a task - giving a pat on the back, giving great smiles or handshake or returning the favor - you would feel on top of the world, feeling great that you have done something important. It is of the nicest feeling, making one know that they are useful/important in something. It doesn't have to be something massive, just those small everyday things that can turn your frown into a smile, that alone can fuel you through the day. However...

The Bad
When one does not give you the recognition you deserved/wanted (noted that I put wanted there?), you'll get over sensitive and pissed off easily. It's true how saying or not saying or not-saying-with-smile or saying-without-sincerity a normal 'thank you' would give different response from others. (P/S: for you guys out there, insincerity is easy to detect, you don't have to be an expert to know it.) But when situations put you in as the bearer, you would get over sensitive and you lock yourself into a never-ending portal of self-pity, where people mistreat you all the time and your prejudice get ahead of you.

It is sad to know the consequences of possessing a quality. But I think it is how you manage yourself that makes the difference. 
Let's put ourselves outside of the 1st person or 2nd person's POV. Put yourself in a 3rd person's POV instead. 
Would you agree to someone beginning to hate another just because they forget to say a sincere thank you? 
Is it okay for one to make a judgement before knowing that there are several angles to take into consideration? 
Yes, it might not seem appropriate sometimes to allow unfairness. I know cause I am one who values fairness, or as the Chinese call it, 公正.
But, remembering the recognition we seek for, is it a must or is it a desire? 
At times it seems that not all hard-work or efforts made are given the hero's welcoming. 
Those who give incognito are actually the true heros because they are in the level where it doesn't matter whether or not you get the recognition - this is where you have fun giving. 

Relating it to teachings such as the Chinese Buddhism and some celebrations such as Christmas, the spirit of giving is somewhat, the next level to be achieved by men.
This is where some hearts come at peace.
As for me, I would still continue to enjoy my new found quality, but in a conserved way, because I believe in one who may give good recognition to others, for the good of both parties.

Appreciation, is to be given, and to be taken (Wendy, 2012)


Signing off,
JCG

讲多错多

这既可怜又无可否认的事实
当我最近面对人多时
不知怎，嘴巴讲的比头脑想的还来得快
不对场合说出不对的话，
不懂有没有得罪他人。。。

祸还是从口出来的
人只能时时警惕
照顾自己并顾及他人的滋味
才算沟通/处事成功

无论你是处身在哪里的你
要是我曾经说过一些难下耳的话
我在这诚恳的道歉
本人不是故意的，
希望大人有大量
peace out


JCG

Life lessons: Communication

It takes 2 to tango.


We don't have to be taught to understand the importance of communication.
But sometimes somehow, we don't do it.
Why?
Because it's what we Chinese refer to as 麻烦, or troublesome.
We are stuck in an era where minds are set to be: if you don't say it out, then others won't know; if others don't know, nobody's gonna bother you and your own sweet world.
Right?
Wrong.
Reality is always harsh, in this case, if you don't communicate (well) with others, then in the end, things will not turn out the way you planned it.

Let me share this with you.
I was not one who was trilled with the idea of communication.
Specifically with my parents.
They somehow got to find fault in everything you say and every discussion would turn out to be a lecture. (Boring stuff I know, I still love my parents though.)
But recently, I've found out that it is actually not that hard to talk to them.
Yes sure, everything they say must be out of a handbook or something (Universal Handbook for Asian Parents: Guides and Examples available!)
But as much as you don't like to hear out their lessons or lectures, most of them actually make good advice.
Their messages are as though encrypted by several layers of codes, if you manage to crack them, it'll be raining "golden experiences".
I started to like talking to them as I grow, and I realize the many boring/useful stuff they say to you, most of it is out of care and love.
Awww guys, thanks for making me feel like a star.


No pun intended :)

Anyway, grab a close member of your heart, your parents, your partners, your friends, and communicate. Talk and sort things out, sometimes, the results might even surprise you.
Have a nice day.