Thursday, May 26, 2011

Losing Gracefully

A fact of life: we are afraid of losing. May it be losing your place, losing your loved ones or losing pride, we are afraid. We want to grab hold of something so bad, we put our heads into it, your body into it and even our life into it. It is hard, took me sometime to realize that I am, sometimes, afraid too.

Maybe it's because we are afraid, we treasure them. It is because we know we might not have it forever, we appreciate it more. I had a friend who died of cancer, but she is just older than me by a year. This makes me realize that life is frail. Remember the scene in Hercules where the witches pulled a string of human life and cut it with a worn scissors? Yes, we are THAT frail; LIFE is THAT frail..

People like me, I like to find solutions. How could we overcome the fear of losing? I read from somewhere, fear itself is the unknown, we are afraid because we do not know what would happen. Morrie (from Tuesday with Morrie) once said in order to overcome it we must embrace it. How? By letting the emotions flow through you, feel it, embrace it, get familiar with it, then let it go.

What if one day we were to lose all of our money, what would you feel, what would you do? *Think about it, exhale, then let it go* What if one day we were to lose a loved one, what would you feel, what would you do? *Think about it, exhale, then let it go* What if one day you were to die, what would you feel, what would you do? *Think about it, exhale, then let it go* It's quite simple actually.

We lead unsatisfied and unfulfilled life because we live in fear and we forget the emotions we once faced, grabbing on to the bits and scrapes and hope that miracles happen. With that we stop growing, our mind refuses to step ahead, we stay in the same place mourning for ourself, feeling self pity and lacking of confidence. In order to continue growth, you must accept yourself for who you are, accept the situations beside you and accept that you cannot have them forever, then we can have our freedom.

We are ordinary people. Maybe we should take it slow. We will live and learn, trust in yourself and believe that the sun still shines, life is good. A nice song to recommend to you. Do listen.

Hey you, can i have a smile? Pleeeease?

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Stop living a satisfactory life!

WHY? Well let me tell you a story....

Back when I was young, my mom once told me =successful people emerge from mistakes and failures= Then I remember the stories about Einstein, Beethoven, Da Vinci, Stephen Hawkins... All of them must be from poor families or they have disorders! Being the cute girl I am, I wonder... Would I have to go through all these hardship to get success too? How will I create my own misery to overcome? (Awww, I was so naive.. XD)

Well, as I grow up, I realize facing problems aren't a piece of cake. You don't just triumph from something bad, things don't just go the way you planned it. I do have my own list of failures. (mourn, mourn for me BOO) But things were easy going for me. No life threatening dramas, no wailing and crying my eye balls off, no 'sky is falling' stuff for me. My life is simple and to my satisfaction. Nothing wrong right?

WRONG! It is because I am satisfied with my life, that's the root of the problem! We live our life to perfect ourself, may it be materially, physically, mentally or spiritually. And I am stopping... I forget about my aim in life, my purpose. My life drifted away to the satisfaction. Had that ever happen to you?

So I was reading a book by 戴晨志, the famous Taiwanese lecturer which specializes in giving motivation. He said something about 成功来自渴望. Success came from the thirst, thirst as in wanting more in life, not satisfied by your life now. It's a nice quote to think about. Even when we are old, days might not be meaningless. Look at Morrie (from Tuesdays with Morrie), he found his new born strength when he was DYING! That, is motivation!

This is him here, 戴晨志

Friends, are you living comfortable? Are you satisfied with your current life? Are you stopping? Well, you better not! Cause you will NEVER know what life had install for you. Just remember, to KEEP MOVING FORWARD!

Monday, May 16, 2011


In Malaysia, more specifically, the Chinese society, kids are expected to excel. That is a common fact. But in Primary schools, more specifically, SJK(C)'s, we see teachers pushing the good students forward and upward, and the not-so-good students fight to maintain their standards. Is it me or do I see result-ism?

Result-ism is like only those who are good, or as the Chinese say, 'easy to teach' students are being "fully developed"; those so called averages are left to fend for themselves. I am not implying teachers did not do their job, I am implying that because it's hard, teachers choose not to put too much of an effort in teaching the averages. Heck, even I complain sometimes! (being a subs teacher and all)

Let's take a look, it's the society's doing. It's changing. We are now not satisfied with GOOD results. We want GREAT results. We are not satisfied in excelling in A PARTICULAR FIELD. We want ALL ROUNDED students. As a result, students are sent to piano, ballet, Kumons, Ericans, Math Monkeys, dan lain-lain lagi, not even counting the All-Subject tuitions and day care they got sent into...

How do students react? Their little minds interpret things straight forwardly. If I do this, I get that. Simple, no? If I get good results, my parents would praise me. If I perform well, I get more attention. If I am naughty, I get caned. And the list goes on. Hmm, how is this gonna help in 'character building', 'moral instilling' and 'social skills'?

So LnG, this is how us Chinese students are made. I was once from a Chinese school, I understand the pressure perfectly. Those getting-sick-every-exam-season and swallowing-the-book-literally, I get that, WE get that. I was once an average in primary, grown up to be the 'good' student in secondary. The problems come when the "what to do with them" appear......

What to do with 'good' kids and what to do with 'bad' kids as teachers classify them? Good kids get to shine ALL THE TIME. The not-so-good kids? Well, they are still there, being invisible. It's like the classic scene from Sky High, the Heros get to save people and they get all the glory; while the Sidekicks work their ass off to compliment the heros. Typical~

My point is... It's teachers day. I understand that it's a hard work being a teacher, I admire their patients, their patients and their patients. Did I mention their patients? I feel that good students should be treated the same way as those not-so-good students. Well, not exactly the same but, no special attentions or sorts. It's only fair?

To the parents... When is the last time you talked to your kid about non-academic, non-usual-nagging, non-school or non-tuition matters? Huh~ It's not easy being a parent too come to think of it.... Well, that's another story~


Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mom's day bakery

So I've decided to bake something for my mom this mom's day
I found an interesting blogpost about Apple Crumble
So let's get started!
This is me in my 'shopping' suit
First I went to Tesco to get all the ingredients
Then I started mixing and stuff
Real easy procedures and POOF!
Bake it and you'll get something like this
Best served with a bit of ice-cream!
I am glad my family's delighted with my baking!
Especially my mom!
Try some?


Friday, May 6, 2011

Singapore True Story...

A certain rich businessman had a beautiful daughter, who fell in love with a guy who was a cleaner. When the girl's father came to know about their love, he did not like it at all, and so they began to protest about it. Now it happened that the two lovers decided to leave their homes for a happier future. The girl's father started searching for the two lovers but could not find them. At last, he accepted their love and asked them to come back home in a local newspaper. Her father said, "if you both come home, I will allow you to marry each other. I accept that you love each other truly." So by this, their love won and they returned home...

The couple went to town to shop for the wedding dress. He was dressed in a smart white shirt that day. While he was crossing the road to the shops to get some drinks for his fiancée, a car came by and hit him. The poor guy died on the spot. The girl had lost her senses, she cried and wailed. It was only some time after that she recovered from her shock. She solemnly attended the funeral and cremation of her lost husband.

Two nights later, the girl's mother had a dream in which she saw an old lady. The old lady asked the mother to wash the blood stains of the guy on her daughter's dress as soon as possible. But her mother ignored the dream. The next night, her father had the same dream too. He too, chooses to ignore it and he never said a word about it. Then on the following night, the girl had the exact same dream, she woke up in fear and told her parents about it. Her mother was shocked and she advised her to wash the clothes which have those blood stains immediately. She washed the stains but some remained. The next night, the same dream haunted her, and again, she washed her cloths, but the blood stain will not come off. The next night, the old lady gave her a last warning to wash the blood stain, or else something terrible will happen to her. This time the girl tried her best to wash the stain, she shook and sob when she washes her cloths. Her cloths nearly tore, but the stains still remain....

She was tired and scared. She lived her day in terror. When night falls, she was alone at home. She heard a loud hammering at the door. She slowly walks up to the door and demanded to know who the knocker was. When no one answers her, she opens the door. She saw the same old lady in her dreams, standing and smiling at her. She screamed and she fainted on the spot. The old lady woke her up.....and gave her a blue object, which shocked the girl. She asked in fear, "what is this.....?"

The old lady replied.... "Try Dynamo Liquid Soap... Just a dab and it will remove all stubborn stains!!".........

I know how you are feeling now. I have been through this too. It's not me leh. I am also hunting the person who mailed this to me. XDXD

Calling all sisters!

By sisters i mean real sisters
Those with annoying younger brothers and sisters
Not those who are girly friends and wanted to have an external family tree
I am a sister
A big sister
An elder sister
I have 2 brothers
V n L
V is 3 years younger than me
L 11

Sisterly duty:
#1 To always be available
-to them when they want to annoy you
and your mom, when she needs to complain bout them-

#2 To be the 'dai lou' of the house
-Yell around like you are the boss, then do the housework yourself
cause brothers/sisters will never do it-

#3 To listen
-Many of us fail this part, but it is important to listen to what they have to say
cause you are the one they find comfort in confiding, USUALLY-

#4 To help
-Help in relationships, help in school work, help in copying their school work etc etc-

#5 To play & have fun with them
-I love playing wrestling with L, which I ended up losing

#6 To argue and fight
-It's healthy to do so, like fighting for the last piece of chocolate,
I mean, it's the only way you would get it, right?-

#7 To finish up their stuff
-It happens when you have a brother 11 years younger than you,
you have to finish their food, which is 'protected' by a slimy layer of saliva-

#8 To love them and cherish them always
-Some of you may not know, brothers and sisters
they look up to you, even in your worst days...
When you cry, they silently grab a bunch of tissue and throw them at you
When you are moody, they might argue with you,
then they would tell others you are having a bad day
When you are lonely, they do stupid things to cheer you up,
such as singing songs so loud you swear the doors and windows are gonna blow off-

They might worry you
They might be feisty
They might even piss you off real bad
But they are family
And family sticks
Stuck like glue
I love both my brothers
Deep from the heart

=Seperti air yang dicincang, tidak akan putus=
wahahaha, i still remember this from form 4's BM

PS, anymore sisterly duty you might add??

Monday, May 2, 2011

Days are beautiful
If you choose to see it that way
=Officially missing you=
(that's a demand!)